Day Journal
momentary presence
Sunday, November 10, 2024
11-10-24 a chilly fall morning
Tuesday, February 7, 2023
women... more beautiful as they grow older
Wednesday, February 1, 2023
things i have learned as a widow
i have learned...
how to sleep in the middle of the bed after years of sleeping on my own side. now i even sleep on what was his side,
being alone isn't so bad once you adjust and accept.
some things aren't much fun on your own.
eventually everything ends so you need to grab the special moments when you can and savor the hell out of them.
it's good to move on but you shouldn't rush it. every ending requires time for you to grieve. only then can you heal and truly move forward.
you have to work through things, not around them.
journaling IS a path to healing.
not all therapists are helpful. find one that is.
you'll never "get over" the loss of a loved one but you will get through it. and there is effort required in living and beginning a new normal. new habits, new traditions, new adventures all begin with you. in time the pain of loss will lessen.
to count my blessings daily...and literally list them.
i'm special, just like everyone else.
that if i want to go anywhere i have to drive myself.
you are suddenly in control of the remote and can watch whatever you like on tv.
none of us are immune to bad things happening. that's called life so there's no point in feeling sorry for yourself. but you will now and then and that's ok as long as you don't get stuck in victim mode.
that i can't always do it all by myself, that sometimes i need a helping hand. if i do, it's ok and not a good idea to beat myself up over it. it may be hard at first but it's really ok to ask for help. but remember, no one is going to haul the groceries in but you.
to spend time with the people who allow you to talk about your loved one and your feelings.
you have to care for yourself. lack of food and rest will catch up with you and often in the form of illness. your resistance is low. vitamins are a good idea, too.
you get tired of people saying you're so strong. it's not like you had a choice.
instead of asking, "why me?", try asking, "why not me?"
keep talking to them. they're around and listening.
it's ok to fall in love again. they may have died but you didn't and they would want you to be happy.
you will smile again. life goes on and you will, too.
Monday, December 19, 2022
12-19-22
outside my window... it is dark and cold and there is still a dusting of snow left. the trash and recycling sit out front at the curb for tomorrow morning's pickup.
i am thinking...how i truly dislike these cold day of winter and it's barely just begun
from the kitchen...i just made a toasted turkey and cheese sandwich in my sandwich press. otherwise it is clean. yesterday's kitchen was busy with cookie making
i am wearing...black insulated leggings, army green sweatshirt that reads, "i like weed and maybe 3 people", black socks and house slippers. i still have my bra on, wtf?
i am reading...emir's education in the proper use of magical powers by jane roberts
i am hoping...and praying for shelter for all the homeless people
i am creating...a KORN Issues doll. i just finished a kodama (Japanese tree spirit) last week
i am hearing...the furnace fan blowing and the squeak in my desk chair as i turn
around the house...bedding washed and bed remade, refrigerator cleaned out of non-edible leftovers, groceries bought and put away
one of my favorite things...talking with my sis on the phone
i am looking forward to...thursday when i see jason
weekend plans include...christmas with jason, seeing some local and maybe not so local lights
Tuesday, December 6, 2022
outside my window...
the day is gray, typical for this time of year.
i am thinking...
(a bit overwhelmingly) about all i need to accomplish by springtime if i am going to sell the house and move. i am trying to embrace this change because it's something i want yet it overwhelms me. i need more gumption!
from the kitchen...
nothing is on the stove, but intentions are good for trying a new tortellini soup recipe. yesterday i made some wonderfully good chili.
there are dishes waiting to be washed.
i am wearing...
black legging style sweatpants with a gray "arkansas football"tee (the shirt i slept in) with a stain on the front. i have on gray fuzzy socks and slippers. essentially i am dressed but not too presentable, lol!
i am reading...
mostly crochet patterns and articles of interest online. that said, i have a book arriving soon by jane roberts.
i am hoping...
to see my son over the holidays. i miss him a lot.
i am creating...
i just finished a cover i started a year ago to go over a neck/shoulder pad i use when sitting in my living room chair. last night i began a KORN "issues" doll. i've sought out a good pattern for over a year and finally found one on youtube.
i am hearing...
the hum and clicking of zippers, snaps and buttons as clothes tumble in the dryer.
around the house...
it's quiet. the dog is resting on the sleeping porch, things need to be picked up and straightened, i have two orders of crocheted novelties to pack and prep for mailing.
one of my favorite things...
is phone conversations and laughter with my twin sister.
i am looking forward to...
tomorrow when my food box arrives. it's always fun to see what's in it and what i might be able to cross off my grocery list.
weekend plans include...
nothing on the agenda just yet but cookie baking could take place.
11-10-24 a chilly fall morning
it is a chilly, wet morning in my part of the world. and as much as i complain about summer's end and winter being on the horizon, i mu...
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i have learned... how to sleep in the middle of the bed after years of sleeping on my own side. now i even sleep on what was his side, bein...
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it is a chilly, wet morning in my part of the world. and as much as i complain about summer's end and winter being on the horizon, i mu...